You might want to consider using the following two items for letter writing, posts to facebook, messages to “friends”, ect:
Dictionary: a book, optical disc, mobile device, or online lexical resource
(such as
Dictionary.com) containing a selection of the words
of a
language, giving information about their meanings,
pronunciations, etymologies, inflected forms, derived forms,
etc., expressed in either the same or another language;
lexicon; glossary. Print dictionaries of various sizes, ranging
from small pocket dictionaries to multivolume books, usually
sort entries alphabetically, as do typical CD or DVD
dictionary applications, allowing
one to browse through the terms
in sequence.
Thesaurus: 1. a dictionary of
synonyms and
antonyms,
such as the online
Thesaurus.com. 2. any dictionary, encyclopedia, or other comprehensive
reference book.
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Also it might be wise to keep these two things in mind:
Divorce: 1. a judicial declaration dissolving a
marriage in whole or in part,
especially one that releases the husband and wife from all matrimonial
obligations. Compare
judicial separation.
2. any formal
separation of husband and wife according to established custom.
Widow: a woman who has lost her husband by death and has not remarried.
Re-familiarize yourself with the words listed below and then reread your letter to see if it makes sense (or doesn’t appear on reread as an emotional over-dramatization). You can’t take it back now but could use this as a learning experience.
Anonymously: without any
name acknowledged, as that of author,
contributor, or the like: an anonymous letter to the editor; an anonymous donation. 2. of unknown
name; whose name is withheld:
an anonymous author. 3. lacking individuality,
unique character, or distinction:
an endless row of drab, anonymous houses.
Destruction: to destroy; 1. to reduce (an object) to useless fragments, a useless form, or remains, as by rending, burning, or dissolving; injure beyond repair or renewal; demolish; ruin; annihilate. 2. to put an end to; extinguish. 3. to kill; slay. 4. to render ineffective or useless; nullify; neutralize; invalidate. 5. to defeat completely.
Impose: 1. to lay on or
set as something to be borne, endured, obeyed,
fulfilled, paid, etc.:
to impose taxes. 2. to
put or set by or as if by authority:
to impose one's personal preference on others. 3. to
obtrude or thrust (oneself, one's
company, etc.) upon others.
4. to pass or palm off fraudulently or deceptively: He imposed his pretentious books on the public.
Defy: 1. to challenge the power of; resist boldly or openly: to defy parental authority.
2. to offer effective resistance to: a fort that defies attack. 3. to challenge (a person) to do something deemed impossible: They defied him to dive off the bridge. 4. Archaic . to challenge to a combat or contest.
Deplorable: 1. causing or being a subject for grief or regret; lamentable: the deplorable death of a friend. 2. causing or being a subject for censure, reproach, or disapproval; wretched; very bad: This room is in deplorable order. You have deplorable manners!
Torture: the act of inflicting excruciating pain, as punishment or revenge, as a means of getting a confession or information, or for sheer cruelty. 2. a method of inflicting such pain. 3. Often, tortures. the pain or suffering caused or undergone. 4. extreme anguish of body or mind; agony. 5. a cause of severe pain or anguish.
Vengeance: 1. infliction of injury, harm, humiliation, or the like, on a person by another who has been harmed by that person; violent revenge: But have you the right to vengeance? 2. an act or opportunity of inflicting such trouble: to take one's vengeance. 3. the desire for revenge: a man full of vengeance. 4. Obsolete . hurt; injury. 5. Obsolete . curse; imprecation.
Hypocritical: 1. of the
nature of
hypocrisy, or pretense of having virtues,
beliefs, principles, etc., that one does not actually possess:
The parent who has a “do what I say and not what I do” attitude can appear hypocritical to a child. 2. possessing the
characteristics of
hypocrisy:
Isn't a politician hypocritical for talking about human dignity while voting against reasonable social programs?
Meddling: to involve oneself in a matter without right or invitation; interfere officiously and unwantedly: Stop meddling in my personal life!
Dignity: 1. bearing, conduct, or speech indicative of self-respect or appreciation of the formality or gravity of an occasion or situation. 2. nobility or elevation of character; worthiness: dignity of sentiments. 3. elevated rank, office, station, etc. 4. relative standing; rank. 5. a sign or token of respect: an impertinent question unworthy of the dignity of an answer.
Incapacity: 1. lack of ability, qualification, or strength; incapability. 2. Law lack of the legal power to act in a specified way or ways.
Pilfering: to steal, especially in small quantities.
Suffering: 1. the state of a person or thing that
suffers.
2. Often, sufferings. something
suffered by a person or a group of
people; pain: the sufferings of the slaves.
War: 1. a conflict carried on by
force of arms, as between nations or
between parties within a nation; warfare, as by land, sea, or air.
2. a state or period of armed hostility or active military operations:
The two nations were at war with each other. 3. a contest carried on by force of arms, as in a series of battles or campaigns:
the War of 1812. 4. active hostility or contention;
conflict; contest:
a war of words. 5. aggressive business conflict, as
through severe price cutting in the same industry or any other
means of undermining competitors:
a fare war among airlines; a trade war between nations.
Blackmail: 1. any payment extorted by intimidation, as by threats of injurious revelations or accusations. 2. the extortion of such payment: He confessed rather than suffer the dishonor of blackmail. 3. a tribute formerly exacted in the north of England and in Scotland by freebooting chiefs for protection from pillage.
Ironic: 1. containing or exemplifying
irony:
an ironic novel; an ironic remark. 2.
ironical. 3. coincidental; unexpected:
It was ironic that I was seated next to my ex-husband at the dinner.
Character: 1. the aggregate of features and
traits that form the individual
nature of some person or
thing. 2. one such feature or trait;
characteristic. 3. moral or ethical quality:
a man of fine, honorable character. 4. qualities of honesty, courage,
or the like;
integrity: It takes character to face up to a bully. 5. reputation:
a stain on one's character.
Grieving: 2. to distress mentally; cause to feel
grief or sorrow:
It grieves me to see you so unhappy. 3. Archaic to oppress or
wrong.
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OTHER WORDS YOU MIGHT WANT TO CONSIDER:
Libel: 1. Law . a. defamation by written or printed words, pictures, or in any form other than by spoken words or gestures. b. the act or crime of publishing it. c. a formal written declaration or statement, as one containing the allegations of a plaintiff or the grounds of a charge. 2. anything that is defamatory or that maliciously or damagingly misrepresents.
Defamation: the act of defaming; false or unjustified injury of the good reputation of another, as by slander or libel; calumny: She sued the magazine for defamation of character.
Slander: 1. defamation; calumny: rumors full of slander. 2. a
malicious, false, and defamatory statement or report: a slander against his good name. 3. Law . defamation by oral utterance rather than by writing, pictures, etc.
Bully: 1. a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people.
Cyberbully: 1. to bully online by sending or posting mean messages, usually anonymously: The 12-year-old had been cyberbullied for almost a year.
Harrass: 1. to disturb persistently; torment, as with troubles or cares; bother continually; pester; persecute. 2. to trouble by repeated attacks, incursions, etc., as in war or hostilities; harry; raid.
Stalking: 1. the act or an instance of stalking, or harassing another in an aggressive, often threatening and illegal manner: Stalking is now a crime in many states.
Obnoxious: 1. highly objectionable or offensive; odious: obnoxious behavior. 2. annoying or objectionable due to being a showoff or attracting undue attention to oneself: an obnoxious little brat. 3. Archaic . exposed or liable to harm, evil, or anything objectionable. 4. Obsolete . liable to punishment or censure; reprehensible.
Obsessive: 1. being, pertaining
to, or resembling an
obsession:
an obsessive fear of illness. 2. causing an
obsession.
3. excessive, especially
extremely so.
Trashy: 1. of the nature of
trash; inferior in quality; rubbishy; useless
or worthless. 2. (of a
field) strewn with trash, especially the withered
vegetation from an
earlier crop.
In-breed: 1. to
breed (individuals of a closely related group) repeatedly.
2. to
breed within; engender.
verb (used without object) 3. to
engage in or undergo inbreeding.
Incest: 1. sexual intercourse
between closely related persons.
2. the crime of sexual intercourse, cohabitation, or
marriage between persons within the degrees of
consanguinity or
affinity wherein marriage is legally forbidden.
Son-in-law: the husband of one's daughter.
Adultery: voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse.
Classless: 1
. of or pertaining to a
society in
which there are no economic
or social distinctions. 2. (of
an individual) not having membership in a social or
economic class or group.
Slovenly: 1. untidy or unclean in
appearance or habits.
2. characteristic of
a sloven;
slipshod: slovenly work.
Immoral: 1. violating moral principles; not conforming to the patterns of conduct usually accepted or
established as consistent with principles of personal and
social ethics.
2. licentious or lascivious.
Dissolute: indifferent to moral restraints; given to immoral or improper conduct; licentious; dissipated.
Licentious: 1. sexually unrestrained; lascivious; libertine; lewd. 2. unrestrained by law or general morality; lawless; immoral. 3. going beyond customary or proper bounds or limits; disregarding rules.
Distasteful: 1. unpleasant, offensive, or
causing dislike: a distasteful chore. 2. unpleasant to the taste: a distasteful medicine. 3. showing
distaste or
dislike.
Hick: 1. an unsophisticated, boorish, and provincial person; rube.
Hillbilly: 1. Often Disparaging and offensive . a person from a backwoods or other remote area, especially from the mountains of the southern U.S.
Foolish: 1. resulting from or showing a lack of sense; ill-considered; unwise: a foolish action, a foolish speech. 2. lacking forethought or caution. 3. trifling, insignificant, or paltry.
Narcissistic: 1. having an undue fascination with oneself; vain. 2. Psychoanalysis . tending to derive erotic gratification from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes.
Rude: 1. discourteous or impolite, especially in a deliberate way: a rude reply. 2.
without culture,
learning, or refinement: rude, illiterate peasants. 3. rough in manners or behavior;
unmannerly; uncouth.
4. rough, harsh, or ungentle:
rude hands. 5. roughly wrought, built, or formed;
of a crude construction or kind:
a rude cottage.
