CC is an evil, nasty, rotten little girl!

It is amazing to me, CC, that you find this so amusing. What the hell is wrong with your head? What is funny about any of this? Are you really that evil?

I can just see you there, with your head tipped down and eyes looking up, rubbing your hands together, cackling like a witch. hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

YOU ARE THE STUFF NIGHTMARES ARE MADE FROM!!!

To the athiests:

This has happened to me twice in the last few days so let me say something about it.  For anyone who wants to make a negative comment anytime I reference the Bible, God, or Jesus, I have these points for you to ponder:

1^st – I consider myself to be spiritual, not religious.

2^nd – If you post something on your facebook that is anti-religion, anti-God, or anti-Jesus, I don’t feel an uncontrollable need to make a negative comment to YOU.  Live and let live, that’s what I say.

3^rd – Why are you so offended?  Are you not strong enough in your own convictions to not let what others say bother you?  I am.  That’s why I don’t bother making comments when others post things I don’t agree with.  They are entitled to their OPINION, just as I am entitled to mine.

4^th – If I had said “Buddha said” or Confucius said” you probably wouldn’t have felt the need to make a comment.  Ask yourself why the name “Jesus” bothers you.  If you don’t think he was anything but a prophet, then anything he said would just be good advice or rules to live by wouldn’t it be?  What is there to be offended by?

5^th – I am not directing anything spiritual to anyone in particular.  For the people that believe as I do, they appreciate it.  For those who don’t, they should just disregard.  I am not going to ever sensor my thoughts or my beliefs because a couple of people are offended.  And I wouldn’t ask you to do so either.

6^th – If you don’t like what I write on facebook or my blog, please feel free to unfriend me and keep your nasty comments to yourself.

7^th – Have enough courtesy, if you want to comment on someone’s post, to comment on the subject of the original post.  The point that was trying to be made wasn’t even about God or religion so how does it go there in your mind?  Why do you always feel you have to defend YOUR beliefs?  I’m not pushing mine on anyone, so don’t try to push yours on me.  I understand what you believe and you are entitled to it.

I can say I’ve never met a group of people that are more pushy about their beliefs than atheists.  Don’t you know you aren’t going to change anyone else’s mind by turning everything into an argument?  It just makes you look like some kind of fanatic.

Thought for the day

There comes a time in life, when you walk away from all the drama and the people who create it. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.

Love is...

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

You Are Who You Are For A Reason...

You are who you are for a reason.
You're part of an intricate plan.
You're a precious and perfect unique design,
Called God's special woman or man.
You look like you look for a reason.
Our God made no mistake.
He knit you together within the womb.
You're just what He wanted to make.
The parents you had were the ones He chose,
And no matter how you may feel,
They were custom-designed with God's plan in mind,
And they bear the Master's seal.
No, that trauma you faced was not easy.
And God wept that it hurt you so;
But it was allowed to shape your heart
So that into His likeness you'd grow.
You are who you are for a reason,
You've been formed by the Master's rod.
You are who you are, beloved,
Because there is a God!
by Russell Kelfer

All Summer Long

You know how when you listen to some songs they remind you of times and places in your life? Well I had a song totally ruined for me and every time I hear it, I think of this one situation in time. I just heard it on the radio yesterday and mind when right back there to this most tacky event.

Someone I know, let’s call her CC (for Cowboy Cadillac by Garth Brooks), hosted a 25th wedding anniversary party for two people that I know. That sounds like a very nice gesture doesn’t it? Well I thought so too until CC brought out her “slideshow” that was intended for the happy couple. However, it was a total blast in the face to both the people since they are both Christian people and the song(s) selected by CC were totally inappropriate. Not only that, but the images in her little spectacle (I believe the intentions were to be hurtful) were of her and her family and has absolutely nothing to do with the happy couple or their marriage.

It started out okay musically, even though the images were strange and I wondered where she was going with it. You would think they would be photos of the couple and their life together but it wasn’t. I think it started out with “Memories” by Barbara Streisand which is a very pretty song. The inconsequential images kept going and the music changed into “All Summer Long” by Kid Rock.

Now what would possess someone to play that song for a couples 25th wedding anniversary? “Smoking funny things?” “Drinking whiskey from the bottle?” “Making love out by the dock?” What the hell? Are you kidding me? I can’t even hear that song anymore without thinking of how tacky CC is and what lengths she would go to try to be disrespectful to these two people. I think there was another song after “All Summer Long” but after that came on I completely lost interest.

Read the lyrics below and tell me if you think that is appropriate at all for two elderly, Christian people on their 25th wedding anniversary.

"All Summer Long"
It was 1989, my thoughts were short my hair was long
Caught somewhere between a boy and man
She was seventeen and she was far from in-between
It was summertime in Northern Michigan

Splashing through the sand bar
Talking by the campfire
It's the simple things in life, like when and where
We didn't have no internet But man I never will forget
The way the moonlight shined upon her hair

[Chorus:] And we were trying different things
We were smoking funny things
Making love out by the lake to our favorite song
Sipping whiskey out the bottle,
not thinking 'bout tomorrow
Singing Sweet home Alabama all summer long
Singing Sweet home Alabama all summer long

Catching Walleye from the dock
Watching the waves roll off the rocks
She'll forever hold a spot inside my soul
We'd blister in the sun
We couldn't wait for night to come
To hit that sand and play some rock and roll

Now nothing seems as strange as when the leaves began to change
Or how we thought those days would never end
Sometimes I'll hear that song and I'll start to sing along
And think man I'd love to see that girl again

"Let It Go" by Bishop T.D. Jakes is an awesome book! I highly recommend it!

Quotes

"To speak ill of others is a dishonest way of praising ourselves."  - Will Durant

"If your ship doesn't come in, swim out to it."  - Jonathan Winters

"We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same."  - Carlos Castaneda

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."  - Eleanor Roosevelt

"There will be two dates on your tombstone and all your friends will read 'em but all that's gonna matter is the little dash between 'em."  - Kevin Welch

"The life which is unexamined is not worth living."  - Plato

"Faced with a crisis, the man of character falls back on himself."  - Charles DeGaulle

"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."  - Ralph Waldo Emerson

"If there is no wind, row."  - Latin proverb

"The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your arm."  - Swedish proverb

"He who seeks for applause only from without has all his happiness in another's keeping."  - Oliver Goldsmith

Something to think about...

If your father is looking down on you from heaven, would he be proud?

Knock it off already!

This is MY private, personal blog. I can write ANYTHING I want on it! It is a journal of my personal thoughts and feelings. No one contributes to what I write and no one helps me write anything. If you don't like what I'm writing STOP LOOKING AT IT! You are more than welcome to email me or leave a comment. But your concerns should be directed to ME! I am the author and take complete responsibility. If you'd like to contact a lawyer go right ahead. It would be a huge waste of money.

I sent this link to ONE (1) person in a private message on facebook. It was NOT for public viewing. If she sent it to others to read, that is HER responsibility.

You don't see the sense in anything I've written? So narrow minded!

Based on true events

I think I have a great movie script idea here. And the beginning credits could scroll with a big, bold “BASED ON TRUE EVENTS”. Problem is no one would believe it. They would think it was a phony “based on true events” like the movie Fargo. It’s just too far fetched.

But it really would be based on a true story and I’d have to go Dr. Phil, Ellen, The Talk, and The View to make people believe it was really true. I even know who I would want for the actors. The same people who played in Daddy’s Dyin’, Whose Got The Will. http://youtu.be/48AHOAd4YFI  Except the woman who played Mamma Wheelis can play “the mother” of this story. And I’d need one more woman actor to play an extra daughter/sister. I’d have to think about that one.

The next freaky thing in this true story that I just found out is that these girls have written anonymous letters to neighbors and people from my mother’s church. I don’t understand what the intention was but what they ended up accomplishing is letting the community know how trashy they are. They think this is reflecting badly on my mother and don’t see that it is reflecting badly on THEM. Everyone in this town and people they’ve sent letters to are going to think they are loosing their marbles – or already lost them. Don’t they see how obsessive their behavior looks to other people?

One of them even went to talk to my sister’s ex-landlord to tell some “dirt”. Holy cow! Who does this kind of stuff? The desperation these people are showing is scary. Should I make the movie a horror, drama, or comedy? Not sure about that yet either. I’ll have to think about this and get writing to see which way it leans.

I'll keep everyone updated.

7 STAGES OF GRIEF

7 Stages of Grief...

1. SHOCK & DENIAL-
You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks.

2. PAIN & GUILT-
As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs.
You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase.

3. ANGER & BARGAINING-
Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion.
You may rail against fate, questioning "Why me?" You may also try to bargain in vain with the powers that be for a way out of your despair ("I will never drink again if you just bring him back")

4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS-
Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving.
During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you. You may isolate yourself on purpose, reflect on things you did with your lost one, and focus on memories of the past. You may sense feelings of emptiness or despair.

5. THE UPWARD TURN-
As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly.

6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH-
As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one. You will start to work on practical and financial problems and reconstructing yourself and your life without him or her.

7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE-
During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy. But you will find a way forward. You will start to look forward and actually plan things for the future. Eventually, you will be able to think about your lost loved one without pain; sadness, yes, but the wrenching pain will be gone. You will once again anticipate some good times to come, and yes, even find joy again in the experience of living.

Brief Reactive Psychosis

Definition

Brief reactive psychosis is a sudden, short-term display of psychotic behavior, such as hallucinations, that occur with a stressful event.

Causes, incidence, and risk factors

Brief reactive psychosis is triggered by some type of extreme stress (such as a traumatic accident or loss of a loved one), after which the person returns to the previous level of function. The person may or may not be aware of the strange behavior.
This condition most often affects people in their 20s and 30s. People who have personality disorders are at greater risk for having a brief reactive psychosis.

Symptoms

A brief reactive psychosis is defined by having one of the following:

• Disorganized behavior
• False ideas about what is taking place (delusions)
• Hallucinations
• Impaired speech or language (speech disturbances)

The symptoms are not due to alcohol or other drug abuse and last longer than a day, but less than a month.

Signs and tests

A psychological evaluation can confirm the symptoms. A physical exam can rule out possible illness as the cause of the symptoms.

Treatment

Antipsychotic drugs can help decrease or stop the psychotic symptoms and bizarre behavior. However, symptoms should decrease on their own as long as you stay in a safe environment.
Psychotherapy may also help you cope with the emotional stress that triggered the problem.

Expectations (prognosis)

Most people with this disorder have a good outcome. Repeat episodes may occur in response to stress.

Complications

As with all psychotic illnesses, this condition can severely disrupt your life and possibly lead to violence and suicide.

Calling your health care provider

Call for an appointment with a mental health professional if you have symptoms of this disorder. If you are concerned for your safety or for the safety of someone else, call the local emergency number (such as 911) or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.

Vocabulary words for the peasants

You might want to consider using the following two items for letter writing, posts to facebook, messages to “friends”, ect:

Dictionary: a book, optical disc, mobile device, or online lexical resource (such as Dictionary.com) containing a selection of the words of a language, giving information about their meanings, pronunciations, etymologies, inflected forms, derived forms, etc., expressed in either the same or another language; lexicon; glossary. Print dictionaries of various sizes, ranging from small pocket dictionaries to multivolume books, usually sort entries alphabetically, as do typical CD or DVD dictionary applications, allowing one to browse through the terms in sequence.

Thesaurus: 1. a dictionary of synonyms and antonyms, such as the online Thesaurus.com. 2. any dictionary, encyclopedia, or other comprehensive reference book.

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Also it might be wise to keep these two things in mind:

Divorce: 1. a judicial declaration dissolving a marriage in whole or in part, especially one that releases the husband and wife from all matrimonial obligations. Compare judicial separation. 2. any formal separation of husband and wife according to established custom.

Widow: a woman who has lost her husband by death and has not remarried.

Re-familiarize yourself with the words listed below and then reread your letter to see if it makes sense (or doesn’t appear on reread as an emotional over-dramatization). You can’t take it back now but could use this as a learning experience.

Anonymously: without any name acknowledged, as that of author, contributor, or the like: an anonymous letter to the editor; an anonymous donation. 2. of unknown name; whose name is withheld: an anonymous author. 3. lacking individuality, unique character, or distinction: an endless row of drab, anonymous houses.

Destruction: to destroy; 1. to reduce (an object) to useless fragments, a useless form, or remains, as by rending, burning, or dissolving; injure beyond repair or renewal; demolish; ruin; annihilate. 2. to put an end to; extinguish. 3. to kill; slay. 4. to render ineffective or useless; nullify; neutralize; invalidate. 5. to defeat completely.

Impose: 1. to lay on or set as something to be borne, endured, obeyed, fulfilled, paid, etc.: to impose taxes. 2. to put or set by or as if by authority: to impose one's personal preference on others. 3. to obtrude or thrust (oneself, one's company, etc.) upon others.

4. to pass or palm off fraudulently or deceptively: He imposed his pretentious books on the public.

Defy: 1. to challenge the power of; resist boldly or openly: to defy parental authority.

2. to offer effective resistance to: a fort that defies attack. 3. to challenge (a person) to do something deemed impossible: They defied him to dive off the bridge. 4. Archaic . to challenge to a combat or contest.

Deplorable: 1. causing or being a subject for grief or regret; lamentable: the deplorable death of a friend. 2. causing or being a subject for censure, reproach, or disapproval; wretched; very bad: This room is in deplorable order. You have deplorable manners!

Torture: the act of inflicting excruciating pain, as punishment or revenge, as a means of getting a confession or information, or for sheer cruelty. 2. a method of inflicting such pain. 3. Often, tortures. the pain or suffering caused or undergone. 4. extreme anguish of body or mind; agony. 5. a cause of severe pain or anguish.

Vengeance: 1. infliction of injury, harm, humiliation, or the like, on a person by another who has been harmed by that person; violent revenge: But have you the right to vengeance?  2. an act or opportunity of inflicting such trouble: to take one's vengeance. 3. the desire for revenge: a man full of vengeance. 4. Obsolete . hurt; injury. 5. Obsolete . curse; imprecation.

Hypocritical: 1. of the nature of hypocrisy, or pretense of having virtues, beliefs, principles, etc., that one does not actually possess: The parent who has a “do what I say and not what I do” attitude can appear hypocritical to a child. 2.  possessing the characteristics of hypocrisy: Isn't a politician hypocritical for talking about human dignity while voting against reasonable social programs?

Meddling: to involve oneself in a matter without right or invitation; interfere officiously and unwantedly: Stop meddling in my personal life!

Dignity: 1. bearing, conduct, or speech indicative of self-respect or appreciation of the formality or gravity of an occasion or situation. 2. nobility or elevation of character; worthiness: dignity of sentiments. 3. elevated rank, office, station, etc. 4. relative standing; rank. 5. a sign or token of respect: an impertinent question unworthy of the dignity of an answer.

Incapacity: 1. lack of ability, qualification, or strength; incapability. 2. Law lack of the legal power to act in a specified way or ways.

Pilfering: to steal, especially in small quantities.

Suffering: 1. the state of a person or thing that suffers. 2. Often, sufferings. something suffered  by a person or a group of people; pain: the sufferings of the slaves.

War: 1. a conflict carried on by force of arms, as between nations or between parties within a nation; warfare, as by land, sea, or air. 2. a state or period of armed hostility or active military operations: The two nations were at war with each other. 3. a contest carried on by force of arms, as in a series of battles or campaigns: the War of 1812. 4. active hostility or contention; conflict; contest: a war of words. 5. aggressive business conflict, as through severe price cutting in the same industry or any other means of undermining competitors: a fare war among airlines; a trade war between nations.

Blackmail: 1. any payment extorted by intimidation, as by threats of injurious revelations or accusations. 2. the extortion of such payment: He confessed rather than suffer the dishonor of blackmail. 3. a tribute formerly exacted in the north of England and in Scotland by freebooting chiefs for protection from pillage.

Ironic: 1. containing or exemplifying irony: an ironic novel; an ironic remark. 2.

ironical.  3. coincidental; unexpected: It was ironic that I was seated next to my ex-husband at the dinner.

Character: 1. the aggregate of features and traits that form the individual nature of some person or thing. 2. one such feature or trait; characteristic. 3. moral or ethical quality: a man of fine, honorable character.  4. qualities of honesty, courage, or the like; integrity: It takes character to face up to a bully. 5. reputation: a stain on one's character.

Grieving: 2. to distress mentally; cause to feel grief  or sorrow: It grieves me to see you so unhappy. 3. Archaic to oppress or wrong.

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OTHER WORDS YOU MIGHT WANT TO CONSIDER:

Libel: 1. Law . a. defamation by written or printed words, pictures, or in any form other than by spoken words or gestures. b. the act or crime of publishing it. c. a formal written declaration or statement, as one containing the allegations of a plaintiff or the grounds of a charge. 2. anything that is defamatory or that maliciously or damagingly misrepresents.

Defamation: the act of defaming; false or unjustified injury of the good reputation of another, as by slander or libel; calumny: She sued the magazine for defamation of character.

Slander: 1. defamation; calumny: rumors full of slander. 2. a malicious, false, and defamatory statement or report: a slander against his good name. 3. Law . defamation by oral utterance rather than by writing, pictures, etc.

Bully: 1. a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people.

Cyberbully: 1. to bully online by sending or posting mean messages, usually anonymously: The 12-year-old had been cyberbullied for almost a year.

Harrass: 1. to disturb persistently; torment, as with troubles or cares; bother continually; pester; persecute. 2. to trouble by repeated attacks, incursions, etc., as in war or hostilities; harry; raid.

Stalking: 1. the act or an instance of stalking, or harassing another in an aggressive, often threatening and illegal manner: Stalking is now a crime in many states.

Obnoxious: 1. highly objectionable or offensive; odious: obnoxious behavior. 2. annoying or objectionable due to being a showoff or attracting undue attention to oneself: an obnoxious little brat. 3. Archaic . exposed or liable to harm, evil, or anything objectionable. 4. Obsolete . liable to punishment or censure; reprehensible.

Obsessive: 1. being, pertaining to, or resembling an obsession: an obsessive fear of illness. 2. causing an obsession. 3. excessive, especially extremely so.

Trashy: 1. of the nature of trash;  inferior in quality; rubbishy; useless or worthless. 2. (of a field) strewn with trash,  especially the withered vegetation from an earlier crop.

In-breed: 1. to breed  (individuals of a closely related group) repeatedly. 2. to breed  within; engender. verb (used without object) 3. to engage in or undergo inbreeding.

Incest: 1. sexual intercourse between closely related persons. 2. the crime of sexual intercourse, cohabitation, or marriage between persons within the degrees of consanguinity or affinity wherein marriage is legally forbidden.

Son-in-law: the husband of one's daughter.

Adultery: voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse.

Classless: 1. of or pertaining to a society in which there are no economic or social distinctions. 2. (of an individual) not having membership in a social or economic class  or group.

Slovenly: 1. untidy or unclean in appearance or habits. 2. characteristic of a sloven;  slipshod: slovenly work.

Immoral: 1. violating moral  principles; not conforming to the patterns of conduct usually accepted or established as consistent with principles of personal and social ethics. 2. licentious or lascivious.

Dissolute: indifferent to moral restraints; given to immoral or improper conduct; licentious; dissipated.

Licentious: 1. sexually unrestrained; lascivious; libertine; lewd. 2. unrestrained by law or general morality; lawless; immoral. 3. going beyond customary or proper bounds or limits; disregarding rules.

Distasteful: 1. unpleasant, offensive, or causing dislike: a distasteful chore. 2. unpleasant to the taste: a distasteful medicine. 3. showing distaste  or dislike.

Hick: 1. an unsophisticated, boorish, and provincial person; rube.

Hillbilly: 1. Often Disparaging and offensive . a person from a backwoods or other remote area, especially from the mountains of the southern U.S.

Foolish: 1. resulting from or showing a lack of sense; ill-considered; unwise: a foolish action, a foolish speech. 2. lacking forethought or caution. 3. trifling, insignificant, or paltry.

Narcissistic: 1. having an undue fascination with oneself; vain. 2. Psychoanalysis . tending to derive erotic gratification from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes.

Rude: 1. discourteous or impolite, especially in a deliberate way: a rude reply. 2.

without culture, learning, or refinement: rude, illiterate peasants. 3. rough in manners or behavior; unmannerly; uncouth. 4. rough, harsh, or ungentle: rude hands. 5. roughly wrought, built, or formed; of a crude construction or kind: a rude cottage.

The Evil Queen and The Poor Abused Peasants

I have read the “anonymous” letter again for a new perspective and what first made me angry I now find amusing. First of all, the letter was addressed to my mother using the name she had when she was married to my father, not by the proper name she has had for the last 29 years. Is it comforting somehow for individuals to pretend that a 29 year marriage didn’t even exist? It doesn’t appear so or they wouldn’t have even written the letter.

The reason stated for writing this anonymously is “I have seen the destruction you can impose on anyone who defies you”. Wow, my mother must be some kind of powerful wizard or evil queen. “destruction”? “impose”? “defies”?  Who is she destroying and who is defying her? This sounds like some epic battle (and it is in the small minds of these people). What is this battle about? What is it over? What is there to gain? At the end of the letter it was stated “You may have won the battle but you will not win the war”. Again, what war is being fought here?

1 Corinthians 10:13 New International Version
No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.
 

“I am a member of this community in good standing and wish to remain that way”? Really? Are they? Because if this is the way they behave I can’t believe THAT is true! Or maybe it is in the fantasy land they have created for themselves. Oh yeah, that makes sense. They are poor, pathetic peasants who are being “tortured” and being treated in such a “deplorable manner”. Such big words for such a small mind! Bravo!

The evil queen has gone to “great lengths” to have her “vengeance”. The author of this letter is so self important. Poor thing. She really believes the world revolves around her. Awww, so sad. If you knew how little and how often people really thought about you, you would be amazed.

Romans 12:19 King James Version
Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.

And the evil queen placed “undo stress and demands” on the poor peasants. Funny, I don’t remember her even speaking to the peasants or asking them to do anything. All she wants to do is to be left alone and the peasants keep advancing with pitchforks and torches. Lay down your weapons and go home people. It’s over.

Let me give the author a little piece of advice: if you don’t want to be found out, change your manner of writing. All the facebook posts I have seen and the private messages you sent to others talked about God , his vengeance, his judgment, and the wrath of God. And you wrote this letter in the same manner. Not too bright Sparky. Simple powers of deduction can be used to figure this one out. The peasants don’t know anything about the Bible or God but you like to appear that you know all about it. So you kept up with the same style of writing. Oooops. Not so anonymous now are ya?

“I do believe the bible covers this exact sin in detail”? You believe right. But you are just as guilty of this sin by writing this letter. But you don’t see that? Oh, that’s right, because you are above it all in your fantasy land. You are the communicator and enforcer of God’s will and word. So you have the right to sin and break his laws. You have every right to point out others sins because in your land you are the supreme being. 

“You, lady, will be the one to answer to God on judgment day”. That is so true honey. EVERYONE will answer to God on judgment day, including you. So you might want to keep that in mind. Practice what you preach. Don’t throw the word hypocrite around so loosely when you don’t see that in yourself. It makes you appear very foolish to others who do recognize that in YOU.

hyp·o·crite

 /ˈhɪpəkrɪt/ Show Spelled[hip-uh-krit] Show IPA

noun

1. a person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that he or she does not actually possess, especially a person whose actions belie stated beliefs.

2. a person who feigns some desirable or publicly approved attitude, especially one whose private life, opinions, or statements belie his or her public statements.

Luke 6:37 King James Version
Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven.

Just a side note: if your spouse is a public figure and has a public image to uphold, you might not want to do things that are damaging to your spouses’ reputation. If the obsession, harassment, and libel that is going on here was known to the public, that might reflect badly on your spouse. And the parents of the children that are in your spouses care might cause problems for your spouse. Just giving you something to think about to hopefully get you to shut your mouth and leave my mother and my family alone. But ultimately it is your decision to make as to where your loyalties are. To your spouse, or to your sisters-in-law?  Food for thought.

Response to letter from "Anonymous" (should've just signed your name cause we know who you are)

Dear “Anonymous”:

I refer to you as “dear” because I truly feel sorry for you.  You are so ignorant and so easily lead around by the tip of your nose that it is almost sad. But I can’t be too sad for you if you blindly follow what others tell you instead of seeking the truth yourself. So let me clarify a few things for you. You claim that you knew XXXX well and you knew him for many years. Obviously you didn’t know him at all. Several things you stated are not even his character:

1. First of all that my mother was “blackmailing” or forcing XXXX to do things? That shows you don’t know him at all. XXXX didn’t allow ANYONE to tell him what to do, what to say, or what to think. He was a very strong, independent man and had his own thoughts and opinions. He wasn’t as easily manipulated as you appear to be.
2. You are speaking for a whole community that has not asked you to speak for them. My mother’s neighbors all know that XXXX loved my mother. If he didn’t and she was as horrible as you say, why did he stay with her for 29 years? Why did he change his whole life and become a Christian and an upstanding man? One of the ladies at the funeral told me that when XXXX was sick he told her that he was so thankful for my mother and that if it wasn’t for her he didn’t know where his life would have been. And that came from a NEIGHBOR (one you are speaking out of turn for)!
3. You claim to know him so well? Before he met my mother, I hate to say it, but he was not an upstanding person and you and everyone that lived in that area at the time know that to be true. XXXX even knew that to be true and admitted that fact. The real reason his children are all angry is because they didn’t have the best upbringing and they are resentful that after XXXX married my mother he changed his whole life around. And I won’t even address XXXX because I don’t need to state her reputation here. Everyone knows that all too well so I don’t have to state it.
4. Everything you stated in your letter is very disrespectful to XXXX. You make him out to be a weak, manipulated, sorry, sad man. If that is what you THINK you knew of him, you are COMPLETELY WRONG and just venting your own anger about some issue. Look inside yourself to see where that nasty, hateful heart you have comes from. It isn’t about my mother that is for sure! It is about something within you.

Now, on to some things that are just downright stupid: that house that you are claiming is the “family house” is NOT the house those kids grew up in. I remember when we first moved there and that house was a piece of crap. Did you know that? Were you ever in there before my mom got there? Probably not, but I WAS and it was a S—T hole. Not that it is any of your business but my mother invested the money from the sale of HER HOUSE in Waverly towards making THAT house a livable house. So to insinuate that the house my mother is living in is not hers is just downright stupid.

And another fact that is none of your business but I will tell it anyway is that your father didn’t financially support any of XXXX's children. Even though you are listening to his daughters and blindly believing everything they tell you, THEY don’t know the facts themselves so they are spewing sewer from their mouths. My father was a police officer who was killed in the line of duty and WE (his children) were financially taken care of by MY FATHER!!

The step children asked for items from the house that they wanted and my mother gave them EVERYTHING they asked for. I know this because I was there and helped move a desk out to the porch for them to come and get. (Open mouth – insert foot.) My mother can’t “pilfer” anything from her own house you bozo! She hasn’t gotten rid of anything except what they have asked for.

And let’s address the XXXX issue shall we? XXXX told XXXX (I guess when XXXX was questioning why XXXX was there) that he WANTED XXX there. When XXXX was sick and my mother had knee surgery, XXXX is the one that took care of them both. Where were his children? Why didn’t they step up to the plate and help if they wanted to so bad? XXXX was asked once to help years ago and she said she couldn’t because she wasn’t comfortable doing so. If XXXX hated her so much as you say, why did he want her there to help out on several occasions while he or my mother was sick?

My mother is grieving. She just lost her HUSBAND! And you attack? I bet you are one of those people who goes to picket funerals of fallen soldiers aren’t you? That’s what kind of person you are! You would attack a grieving widow who has just lost her husband, partner, confidant, friend of 29 years? My mother moved my sister in because she doesn’t want to be alone. She is grieving – numb nuts! How can you not wrap your small brain around that? You aren’t using any common sense here! Do you realize that?! You are being cruel to a grieving widow. What kind of person are you?

Are all the XXXX children so self absorbed and arrogant to believe that everything my mother does and says is about them? News flash – my mom doesn’t think about those kids much. She is thinking about her OWN hurt right now. Why they are so obsessed with her is beyond me. Maybe they should be grieving the death of their father and never mind what my mother is doing. Busy body gossips even while they are grieving? Yeah, they are upstanding people all right!

You are right about one thing: XXXX would HATE that people are acting this way and being nasty. Were you there the days before he died? Did you see the way those kids treated my mother? Did you see XXXX screaming, swearing, and trying to intimidate everyone? They say that the hearing is the last thing to go before someone dies. I hope and pray that XXXX didn’t hear his daughter acting that way. I know that if she had acted that way and he had been well, he would have kicked her out of the house.

And what business is this to you anyway? Really, what business do you have here? Everyone functions based on their own perceptions. So if you had any intelligence at all you would KNOW that the things the XXXX children are saying are coming from THEIR perspectives; their tainted perspectives because they don’t like my mother and never have. They didn’t like that their dad married my mom. They didn’t like that he changed his life. They didn’t like that they got jipped out of the father they knew they could have had. They are angry because my mother got the better man as a husband than they did as a father. And that, in my opinion, is where all this hatred comes from. They can’t be mad at their dad for their childhoods, so they choose to be mad at my mother. That’s what this is and they need therapy to sort that out.

One more thing – were you even at the funeral? Because my mother’s children, sister, brothers, nieces and nephews, grandchildren, neighbors, friends, and church family were ALL there. Sounds like you don’t know much about anything so your motivation for writing your “anonymous” letter escapes me. What did you think you would get out of writing such a letter? And we know why you needed to write it anonymously don’t we! The real reasons: 1. you are a chicken; 2. you know this is considered hate mail and could have legal consequences. THAT’S why you had to be “anonymous”. Just because you are stupid, don’t assume others are.

YOU are being so disrespectful to XXXX XXXX! Shame, shame, shame on you!

AND I WILL SIGN MY NAME!!

Kelly Beers